A man whose family came first in life
A man committed to his loving wife
A man who gave the best he could
For quality was all he understood
A hearty laugh, a memorable smile--
Always wanting to go the extra mile.
Our best friend, a grandpa to all--
Would do anything for his family, big or small
A husband, a father, a grandpa, a friend
Someone dear to us all, right up to the end.
Jenny and Jodi Collicott
|February 13, 1928 - September 12, 2000|
|Listen to Grave-side Service
Pastor Jim Johnson officating
WHAT MY FATHER LEFT ME
He left me a good name. Dad always stressed how important it was to be careful how you lived your life so that our family could be proud of our name. We are proud to be descendants of Dee Collicott.
In a world that places more value on things, pleasure and wealth, my father's greatest treasure that he has left me are my values.
Proverbs says to "train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Let me share with you the values my father left me, that have formed my character.
He taught me obedience. Dad was firm and fair. Up to the day I graduated from high school, I knew that Dad required obedience. That is a quality I learned from him that enables me to perform well in this world and to obey the word of God.
He taught me forgiveness. My father and I had disagreements. But as a child I learned that I could not go to sleep until peace was made between us. He would come to me in my bed and apologize. I learned to go to him and do the same. I understand the forgiveness of God and restoration of fellowship, and I have learned to forgive, forget and how to ask for forgiveness from Dad.
He taught me honesty. My dad did not do anything he did not want to do. But if he said he would do something, he did it. What he told you was the truth, good or bad. I too learned to speak the truth. Sometimes I want to hedge, but I know deep inside me that Dad would not have approved. I am deeply indebted to him for instilling this quality in me.
He taught me how to love my wife. Dad made a commitment to Mom that was firm. He would not put himself, or them as a couple, in a position that might jeapordize their relationship or his family. I know my Dad loved his wife and his family. We did not talk about immoral or filthy things at home except as something to avoid. I know today that my reluctance to even swear is rooted in the language my father chose to avoid. My love for my wife and my friendship with her, my desire to protect her and care for her are modeled after him.
He taught me how to let others be different. Dad had strong opinions and raised us to be sensitive to the feelings and values of others. As I grew up, he backed off and let me be me. He only offered advice when I asked for it, and it always amazed me that his advice was perfect for me, not for his wishes. The things I liked, became the things he liked. He supported and encouraged me, but never pushed me to be more or different than I was. As a result, he won me as a friend and a confidant.
I will miss my father very much. I always knew I could reach him and talk to him. I will miss his handshake when we met and parted. I will miss his face, his voice and his laugh; his sensitive spirit, and active mind.
But, while other men leave only memories and trinkets of success, my father left me with my core values and character. I became a born-again Christian in 1973. I know today that God and my Dad have forgiven all my faults. More importantly, I understand today that God has given me the power to live out the values and qualities in life that my Dad planted within me.
I have permanent treasures he has left me. I see them in my brother and sister and I see them in his grandchildren. We have something far more valuable than silver and gold. I shall treasure him the rest of my life. May all of his descendants treasure the good name and the heritage of Dee Collicott.